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We have to respect the fact that he loves her and wants to marry her, though he never even proposed to us.
We have to accept our child's stepmother and the fact that she does not do "Brianna's" hair the way we would.
We have to accept that, right now his business comes first, though he says he loves us.
We have to accept it, respect it, and move on.
Sometimes when people find out your relationship is over, they may ask what happened. We take that as permission to dish all the dirt on him and all the things he did, and all the stupid things he said. We think this tirade of explanation, justifies the "end" of the relationship. But what's really happening is the other person is thinking to themselves, why were you with them for so long or to begin with?
Protect your relationship's reputation and your resume of choices.
Don't lose sight of the "good" that person did or brought. If this man, at some time, helped father your son, don't disrespect that by burning and/or bleaching his clothes. If this man bought you a vehicle, don't disrespect that gesture by posting about him on Facebook. If he helped you heal yourself, build yourself, find yourself, do not disrespect him by speaking about him in an unkind way.
Be respectful of the love that was once there, because it was there at one time. Be respectful of what he did, how he made you feel. Hold on to that and tout that. Show that when it comes to love, you can make good choices, though things don't always work out. Here's a phrase you can use to make sure to always protect your relationship's reputation, "You know the relationship had a lot of good times. Obviously it must have had some bad. But I choose to remember the good in him and us."
Choose to use your common sense and when a relationship is over. I'm sure, this year, we all resolved to do better. Do just that. Even in your breakups, at your most hurtful time, use your common sense, always respect and show love. Carry on!
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