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Important ToDo's Before Sending Your Child Off to College By Daniel T. Newquist, CFP®, AIF® Daniel T. Newquist, CFP®, AIF® is a Principal Wealth Advisor with RNP Advisory Services, Inc., in Morgan Hill with over 20 years’ experi- ence advising clients on their personal wealth and business planning needs. Investment advisory services offered through RNP Advisory Ser- vices, Inc. Securities offered through Securities America, Inc., member FINRA/SIPC, a separate entity. The Investment Fiduciary standard of care applies to advisory services only. [email protected] or call 408. 779.0699. 40 T he day has fi nally come. My fi rst born has grown up, graduated from high school and is preparing to head off to college. The life adventure that lies ahead is charged with a mix- ture of pride, excitement, and anxious emotion for our entire family. As his departure day gets closer, we’re focusing on shopping lists and travel plans to deliver him to school on time. With all the commotion, it’s all too easy for some important tasks to get lost. So, here are six items that can easily get overlooked. Create a durable power of attorney for fi nancial matters and a health-care proxy. In most states, you, as a parent, don’t have authority to make health-care decisions or manage money for your children once they turn 18. That’s true even if you are paying the tuition, have your child on your health insurance plans or claim your child as a dependent on your tax returns. Without such documents in place, if your child is in an accident and/or becomes disabled, even if only temporarily, you might need court approval to act on your child’s behalf. Consult a legal professional to draft these documents for you. Gather your child’s passwords to all digital profi les, including email, school, fi nancial and social media accounts. Keep this in a secure place at home and update as necessary. Your child may not like this but explain that you are not doing it to invade privacy, but to protect it in case of an emergency. Establish a monthly budget for your child. It is especially important to set clear expectations about who will pay for what expense. Maybe you agree to pay for all school-related expenses and it’s your child’s responsibility to pay for all or some of the social expenses. While this list can help meet certain financial needs, don’t neglect to prioritize the emotional aspect of dropping off your child at college for the first time. This event can be a special opportunity to connect. Marshall Duke, a professor at Emory University, offers meaningful advice on this topic. He writes: Set rules around when to use debit and credit cards. Educate your child about the difference be- tween the two and, based upon your child, decide which is the better option. There are advantages and disadvantages to each. If your child is just starting to learn how to budget and balance their bank account, beginning with a debit card may be best, especially for general daily expenses. Leave the credit card for larger expenses, such as travel arrangements, and emergencies. Know where the nearest hospital, urgent care and 24-hour pharmacy are located. Find a good local physician in case your child needs medical attention above what the college health center can provide. Make sure your child carries his or her health insurance card and knows when to use the credit card versus the fl exible spending or health savings account card. GILROY • MORGAN HILL • SAN MARTIN Talk to your insurance agent about covering your child’s belongings while they are living on or off campus. Insurance premiums associated with dorm and renter’s insurance vary, but affordable options with appropriate coverage and deductible are generally available. “Such moments are rare. They have power. They give us as parents one-time opportuni- ties to say things to our children that will stick with them not only because of what is said, but because of when it is said…. This is a moment to tell them the big things. Things you feel about them as children, as peo- ple. Wise things. Things that have guided you in your life. Ways that you hope they will live. Ways that you hope they will be. Big things. Life-level things.”. Duke suggests writing your child a special note. Mail it, the old-fashioned way. “It will not be deleted; it will not be tossed away; it will be kept. Its message will stick. Always.” august/september 2019 gmhtoday.com